It’s been four weeks since many of us set New Year’s Resolutions, and a lot of people start to struggle with maintaining habits, motivation and change as time marches on. If you find yourself in that situation, keep reading - you might have picked the wrong New Year’s Resolution this year.
In this post, I’ll cover 5 signs that you may have set the wrong resolution, giving you a chance to pivot and start fresh before the month is up!
Sign 1: You’ve set this resolution before
If you’re having deja vu this January - it might be time to try a new resolution. Chances are, if you set this same goal, resolution or intention last year and didn’t make the progress you wanted, it's time to focus on why instead of trying the same thing all over again, and expecting a different result.
Take some time to think about what you set out to accomplish, and what happened instead. What can you learn from this? Where is there room for improvement and how could you incorporate that into a new resolution for this year?
If you’re stuck on how to evaluate how last year went, and the resolutions you set - check out this guide to doing a Year End Review. It will walk you through easy steps so you have a crystal clear overview of exactly what you accomplished (or didn’t) last year.
Sign 2: You Didn’t Trust Your Instincts
Trusting your gut is so important when you are setting goals, intentions or resolutions. Why does this resolution matter to you? What are you hoping to feel when you achieve this goal?
If you brushed over the emotional side of New Year’s Resolutions this year, it might be time to go back to the drawing board. Listen to your instincts and help them guide you in setting an intention for the year.
If you struggle with this - try and simplify. What is one word that springs to mind when you think of what you want for the year ahead? Cut through all the “I should____” and the “Everyone else is___” and listen to what your heart is telling you that you need.
Sign 3: You’re Focusing on Scarcity Instead of Abundance
I really encourage my clients to focus on setting resolutions and intentions that bring “more” to their lives, instead of removing things. Instead of planning to eat “no sugar” this year, focus on what you can bring into your diet to nourish and fuel your body.
As soon as we say something is off limits - we want it more. So this year, focus on what you could add to your life to accomplish the goals you want. Do you need more mentorship? More confidence? Do you need to listen more or express more gratitude?
If you’ve set a New Year’s Resolution that focuses on the negative, try and flip it to see if it provides you with more motivation and fewer restrictions.
Sign 4: It’s Super General
If you are finding your New Year’s Resolution is too general to really “get started”, you may have chosen the wrong resolution. Your resolution should have a clear starting point and finish line. Often we hide behind ambiguity so we can avoid making change. This could be because we are scared to take the leap, or we just might not have a deep connection to the topic.
If your resolution is really general because you just aren’t sure how to make it specific, I can help. This post (and free guide!) covers exactly how you can take a big goal for the year and break it down into bite sized pieces.
Sign 5: It’s trending
If your New Year’s Resolution is also a hashtag, you might want to stop and think about why you chose it. It may be the case that you really want to work on this area, but it also could be a situation where you are following the crowd without any real connection to the resolution
Did all your friends decide to start blogs this year but you actually hate writing? Then it’s not your resolution. Think long and hard about the factors, people and influences that may have contributed to the resolution you set this year.
If you found your resolution falling into one of these five categories - don’t give up! You have lots of time to re-evaluate what you want to do with the year ahead and set a new resolution for the year.
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